The right love makes you softer, not smaller.

Here's a simple test for any relationship: do you grow in it, or do you shrink?

Healthy love makes you softer — more open, more patient, more yourself. It gives you room. You laugh more. You take up space without apologising.

Unhealthy love makes you smaller. You edit yourself. You walk on eggshells. You stop sharing your opinions because it isn't worth the fight.

Two plants can share a windowsill and both grow tall. That's what love is supposed to look like.